As promised, a blog post on my new ASOS outfit.
As someone with limited mobility, I know it is shocking that I haven’t been doing the whole online shopping thing up to now. Well, I have – to an extent. I do my grocery shopping online, and my monthly ebay spend is bordering on criminal. I have been shopping for myself and J’s wedding next year (more on that story later), and the almost daily deliveries of beautiful things when I first started sourcing things was nothing short of thrilling! Having done most of the ‘buy ahead’ shopping for the wedding, my stream of parcels has dried up – just in time to be replaced by sumptuous silver bags from ASOS!
Perhaps a minor cop out using stock photos, but I am not yet brave enough to post pictures of myself modelling. Give me time though friends – this blogging thing is addictive! I’m struggling not to share every little excitement in my day with you!
I am a size 16-18-20 depending on the fit, but my top tip for styling an outfit for a day in the wheelchair is always to err on the larger size, especially with bottoms. I know, I know, it’s hard not to be taunted by the number in the back of your trousers, but in an effort to cultivate self love for who I am right now I’m going for flattery over figures. If I can lose some of the weight I’ve gained through reduced mobility, great, but I refuse to peg my happiness on it, so self acceptance and size acceptance is key for me right now.
My style truth’s
The key to style, IMHO, is finding what works for you and sticking with it, whatever the fashion. That’s not to say one should ignore what’s hot and what’s not, but choose the cuts, colours, fabrics and prints that work for you. Cherry pick what’s available to create the best version of you. That is after all what fashion is about.
Being in a wheelchair takes some careful selection and tweaking, which again will be personal depending on your needs, restrictions and preferences. I can’t manage buttons/zips etc, so most of my wardrobe is pull on. I do have some pieces with buttons and zips, but I tend to buy them slightly bigger and wear them as pull on. My one definite exception to this fairly basic rule, is to be careful what waist accoutrement’s make up trousers or skirts. If there are bulky buttons and zips, they will dig into your waist when you are sitting, whatever size you are. I also prefer high rise over hipster/low slung styles, as they sit in a better place while seated, and you don’t have to worry about gaping between garments.
Keep it simple
I have started with a new, but very simple outfit which is wearable by just about everybody. I will tackle some of the greyer areas of wheelchair style as we go along, such as shoes (very divided opinions on this one, but still ultimately down to personal preference), outerwear, accessories, more complicated/tailored styles, and dressing for occasions (such as wearing a wedding or prom dress in a wheelchair).
The biggest point, and I can’t stress this enough, is to have fun! Fashion is meant to be fun, to feel and look good, and to make you feel and look good. Play with it, experiment. Don’t be afraid to try new things. I have a veritable compendium of tales involving busted bras, split trousers, and pinging buttons. Learning to laugh at yourself in every situation is vital to maintaining feelings of happiness and wellbeing, which can sometimes be in short supply when one is juggling different health conditions and mobility restrictions. Life is for living guys, and we can live it well, with whipped cream and a cherry on top (maybe that explains the weight gain haha!) Love Me xxx