Me Before You: My Thoughts


Okay, so this is happening.  I am actually sitting down to write a post about the movie ‘Me Before You’ based on the book by Jojo Moyes.  What you have heard about the movie, and the opinions you have formed on both, will be largely influenced by your relationship too, or within the disability community.  What I am not going to do is write a very accurate and detailed dissection of all of the issues raised by this book and subsequent movie.  Many have done it better than me and I highly suggest you check out these pieces by Emily Ladau, Kim […]

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Here Comes The Summer


It’s a beautifully sunny Monday afternoon.  I have 2 hours to myself, as I’ve just dropped the husband off for an appointment and need to hang around for a while to wait for him.  I’m in Farnham, a quaint little Hampshire town with pavement cafes, green spaces and plenty to do on a sunny day.  In fact a brief wheel into town has revealed said pavement cafes, green spaces etc to be thronged with local inhabitants enjoying a glass of something cold, a chat with a friend and the warmth of the sun on their backs.  So why, other than […]

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Asking for help: Miscarriage Heartbreak


CW: miscarriage I’ve written this blog post a dozen times, and a dozen more in my head, thinking of what to say and how to say it.  My content/trigger warning will have given the game away somewhat, but it is so much more than any one word can describe.  Last year saw heartbreak when after 4 years of trying, we lost our baby.  We decided to chase the loss with hope, and started trying again as soon as it was medically advisable.  We were lucky and conceived quickly, in January. We counted the days.  I was super careful and wouldn’t […]

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Growing up different: bullying & ableism

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Content warning: bullying Recently, I’ve had the privilege of meeting and getting to know lots of new people who identify as disabled.  It’s part of a fun and ongoing story and I promise you will hear much more about it later.  The individuals I have met are open and honest, and as well as learning lots about them, I have learned a lot about myself.  Some good, some bad, and some just plain fact.  I’m one of those people who can chew information round and round in my head, and it only really makes sense when I say it out […]

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Shattering stereotypes and #breakingbarriers


Although I am getting on a bit (or so my roots tell me) I would not quite consider myself elderly just yet.  I do however have quite a lot in common with the elderly, and I’m not just talking my ‘Amy Farrah Fowler’ granny chic and fondness for prunes (they really are sooo good!).  Speaking of The Big Bang Theory, here’s the science bit.  I promise it is short, painless, and those who read will be rewarded with chocolate. Most people, when they hear the word ‘disabled’ think of the medical model, which states that people are ‘disabled’ by their impairments or […]

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Tools for greater independence: bathroom edition


When you have physical limitations and specific needs, it stands to reason that you’re going to have to make some changes to your life and your home.  It’s amazing how many everyday tasks that most take for granted that myself and others struggle with on a daily basis.  I’ve written about adaptations in my home before and I did cast a little shade on my humble little wet room.  I feel bad about that.  The truth is I love a soak on a bath, and dream of a luxurious claw foot tub where I can soak my cares away while […]

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If the shoe fits…

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Call me shallow, but as beautiful as I find the changing seasons, it is to the catwalk and the new seasons collections that I look to before pausing to take in the beauty of a frosty morning or a spring bloom.  Nature does it all so well, the rich autumnal colours and the bright hues of spring, it looks almost effortless year after year.  But it’s to the overflowing racks of gorgeous garments and fabulous footwear that I turn my attention when I want to be wowed by what’s available for us mere mortals to declare our intent for the […]

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